Sadness & Depression

Sadness is a normal, healthy emotion that children experience frequently. For the most part, sadness is short-lived and is triggered by a particular situation or event. Feelings of sadness may be more persistent if a child has experienced a distressing event or ongoing difficulties, such as a family member or pet passing away, parental conflict or divorce, bullying or ongoing social issues. However, if a child experiences sadness for a prolonged period of time (whether or not there have been any significant life events), it could be the sign of childhood depression. It’s important for parents and caregivers to recognise and differentiated signs of sadness and depression, to respond appropriately and seek professional health when required.

What are the signs and symptoms of depression in children?

• Low mood, grumpy, cries more often or has more tantrums than usual

• Lethargic, lacks energy

• Changes in sleep and appetite

• Complaints of headaches or stomach pains

• Not enjoying activities or things they usually like

• Self-critical, puts themselves down

Everyone has days or periods of time when they feel sad, so if your child is experiencing the above symptoms in the short term, there is likely no need for concern. If these are consistent for several weeks, we would encourage you to seek professional support.

How can parents help?

• Communicate openly: Encourage your child to express their feelings openly, so they feel heard. Help them label their feelings and give them words to verbalise how they are feeling.

• Reassure them: Remind your child that feeling sad is ok and that it’s good to cry. Let them sit with their feelings and comfort them by staying close, so they feel supported and safe.

• Teach them coping skills: There are many healthy ways to make it easier to deal with sadness, such as mindfulness techniques, breathing exercises or creative activities.

• Engage in activities: Continue motivating your child to engage in activities they enjoy and encourage them to spend time with friends.  

• Promote self-care habits: Make self-care part of your family routine. This incudes healthy eating, exercise, staying hydrated, establishing a good sleep routine and making time for rest.